Guilt For Divorce
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Guilt For Divorce
Do you feel guilty for having initiated a divorce because you perceive the divorce has harmed your children? This is such a common phenomenon for women. We are responsible for raising our children, yes. We are also responsible for looking out for our own emotional needs. Divorce is a difficult thing, but at times, a necessity. If you have divorced and are feeling guilty for the sake of the children, let your guilt go. Forgive your "ex" for causing you to feel the guilt, and go on with life.
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8/17/2006 4:49:26 PMKaren said:
I fell into this trap. My ex-husband was sexually abusive to me and controlled all aspects of our lives. I lived with this for 12 years wondering how to resolve, but only found myself unhappier and sinking further into despair. My health started to fail, I was short with my children and I began to wish for life itself to end. I finally had the courage to end the marriage and found myself with a wonderful man who became my husband a few years later. Life was great, he treated me like a queen and my kids like they were his own. Within the first couple of years I started feeling increasing guilt over separating my children from their father and taking away a "Ward and June Cleaver" family from them by divorcing. This nearly destroyed my second marriage, as I cast blame on him and on myself. Through pastoral counseling, I was able to understand and accept that the divorce, although initiated by me, was ultimately caused by my ex-husband. My husband, although extremely hurt through the process, stuck by me unfailingly. I was able to keep our marriage together and have now been happily married to this man for 10 years. My children are well-adjusted, and happy adults who love their father, me and step-father unconditionally. My advice to anyone having these feelings.. Let your guilt go, as God has...
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